021 | Woundmates, Twin Flames, and Spiritual Bypassing in Relationships

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I’ve been eyeing Jeff Brown on social media for quite some time now. Each of his poignant pieces would reverberate through me with a powerful ,”Yes, Amen, and Hallelujah!”

Jeff has a powerful way of articulating the nuances and intricacies of grounded spirituality and love. His teachings are direct and deep, calling out the BS and painful shortcomings of new age culture and spiritual relationships.  Given my history with spiritual gaslighting and my passion for the realness, I knew Jeff was the perfect first guest for Honey in the Heart! 

Jeff covers a lot of ground in this episode, particularly the importance of “Enrealment” in relationship. If you are craving some insights and guidance on how to have a thriving relationship - to yourself, god, and your partner - that includes ALL of yourself (not just the love and light), this is an episode you don’t want to miss!

In this episode we discussed: 

  • What the term “Enrealment” means in both intangible and tangible terms.

  • How typical spiritual constructs are based on patriarchal systems and bypassing

  • The danger and dysfunction of “Twin Flames”

  • How gurus can get away with terrible behavior, misconduct, and painful personal lives

  • The importance of being in your physical and emotional body to have a healthy, nontoxic relationship

  • How relationships help us excavate our trauma and past pain

  • Steps to get grounded if you notice you’re dissociated and bypassing in your relationship

  • Why support is essential to understanding how relationships can be a portal to divinity 

  • How yoga is often used for spiritual bypassing and dissociation from the f*cked up humanness

  • The difference between soulmates and woundmates - and why it’s important to tell the difference

  • Qualities essential to have a relationship based on grounded spirituality / enrealment

  • How tantra and sex can be used to escape and disassociate 

  • Why suicides are happening more and more in new age communities

  • What’s required to actually have a love experience

Connect with Jeff:

Website: https://jeffbrown.co/

Instagram: @jeffbrownsoulshaping

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SOULSHAPING/

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About Jeff Brown:

A former criminal lawyer and psychotherapist, Jeff Brown is the author of 6 popular books: Soulshaping, Ascending with Both Feet on the Ground, Love It Forward, An Uncommon Bond, Spiritual Graffiti and Grounded Spirituality. He is also the producer and primary journeyer in the award-winning spiritual documentary, Karmageddon, which also stars Ram Dass, Seane Corn, Deva Premal and Miten. After writing a series of inspirations for ABC’S ‘Good Morning America’ in 2010, and appearing on Fox News.com and dozens of radio shows, Brown wrote the viral blog ‘Apologies to the Divine Feminine (from a warrior in transition)’ that autumn, catapulting him to a greater degree of notoriety, particularly in social media. Jeff’s new terms and short writings became a phenomenon some years ago, and continue to be shared by seekers and growers worldwide. His quotes have been shared in social media by Alanis Morrissette, Fergie, Chrissy Metz, and many other well-known figures. Most beautifully, they have touched and benefited millions of souls. This gratifies him deeply. In April, 2018, Jeff was invited to Ottawa by Sophie Grégoire Trudeau–gender equality activist and the wife of Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau–to film a conversation about emotional healing and inclusivity. She had been sharing Jeff’s words in speeches and social media posts for some time. Excerpts from that powerful dialogue are viewable on Sophie’s Facebook and Instagram pages. Jeff is also the founder of Soulshaping Institute and Enrealment Press. He lives in Canada with his wife, poet Susan Frybort