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017 | Erotic Intelligence, with Eva Clay

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I noticed several years ago that I had an aversion to pleasure.

Like many women, I had put my sexuality and general ability to welcome things that truly felt good, over “there” in a little box, disconnected from the rest of my life. I knew pleasure was important, but I down played its existence. It was easier that way. It made it so I didn’t have to confront layers of discomfort and shame.

 

Eventually that caught up to me. That little box over there wasn’t meant to be separate, it was an essential part of me being ALIVE as an embodied woman. I began opening the box and it changed my freaking life. And not just my sex life, every area of my life

 

Eva Clay is a true embodiment of the power of pleasure, and I knew I had to have her on the podcast. The woman exudes the juiciness of being alive and including it all - and has the science and mastery to back it. She has the uncanny ability to make it all okay, while warmly inviting you into the realms of yum in your life.

 

If you find yourself on the journey of opening your capacity for pleasure and discovering your innate erotic life, this episode is for you!

 

In this episode we discussed:

+ Eva’s personal awakening that happened when she lost her own libido after being a clinical sex therapist for years.

+ Her wake up call that later lead her from a sexual revolution to a year of celibacy

+ The integration of scientific clinical sexuality and spiritual tantric sexuality

+ The limitations of the diagnostic problem model for sexuality

+ How your libido can get blocked and frozen

+ How the patriarchal culture affects how we relate to our own sexuality as women

+ What is Erotic Intelligence

+ The neuroscience of pleasure and arousal

+ How to connect to your erotic nature if it feels totally shut down

+ Sex Magic - how to use your erotic life to tap the unconscious for healing and manifestation

+ Working with shame

 

“In your erotic life, in your sexual life - make nothing wrong and love all of it.”

 

Resources

Website: www.evaclay.com

Insta: @evaclay

 

About Eva

Eva Clay, MSW, LCSW is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science.  She's helped thousands of people unlock their innate potential for pleasure, and as a former professor of neuroscience, she bodaciously reminds us that smart is sexy. Her work is an elegant marriage of the profound and the playful, and she offers sexual intelligence courses and coaching.  When she’s not teaching, you’ll find her making mayhem on a dance floor.

See www.EvaClay.com

  

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012 | Money Therapy

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Money is one of those topics that, uuuuuuuuugh can bring up so many things - full spectrum. For me - guilt, shame, not good enough, contraction, avoidance, and guilt. It’s different for each person. One thing is for sure though, we definitely don’t like to talk about it in this culture. We also don’t provide basic education on how to work with it well. It’s personally one my main healing entry points, and one that is so essential to address if you are going to be engaged in life and not meditating in a cave 24/7.


Over the years I’ve made my way through a variety of approaches to working with money - both spiritual and uber practical, and they seem to miss the full picture. It wasn’t until I came across Bari’s very somatic based money teachings that things started to shift. Bari pieces all the different layers together and in way a that is incredibly nurturing, direct, and effective. In this first episode of season 2 Bari shares some crazy helpful tools and illuminating stories on how we can heal our relationship to money, develop healthy honey practices, and find our way to financial happiness.


"Fear, anxiety, anger, sadness, checking out, joy, guilt, excitement -

all the emotions that come up in any other big area of life will come up with money too.

They are all welcome.

They are all part of the terrain."


We discussed:

  • How Bari’s daunting student loan surprisingly propelled her out of her somatic therapy practice into conscious bookkeeping and later money therapy

  • The power of basic financial education - and how the lack of it affects everyone

  • Why we need to address the psychological, spiritual, and practical levels when working with money

  • Money shame - how it shows up and the initial antidote to unravel it

  • The key of the body check-in for any money moments

  • Money Dates - how to set yourself up well

  • Why you need to look at your numbers and identify your money values

  • The inner money judge voice

  • The money differences that can arise with couples

  • Tips for having those tough money conversations and plans with your partner

  • The Art of Money for Financial Happiness




Resources:

Website: http://baritessler.com/

Instagram: @baritessler

The Art of Money School: http://baritessler.com/art-of-money/


About Bari:

Bari Tessler Linden, M.A., is a Financial Therapist, Mentor Coach, Mama-preneur, and the Founder of The Art of Money. She has guided thousands of people to new, empowered, and refreshingly honest relationships with money through her nurturing, body-centered approach. Her methodology weaves together personal, couple, and creative entrepreneurial money teachings into one complete tapestry. She is the founder of The Art of Money: a global, year-long money school, which integrates Money Healing, Money Practices and Money Maps. Her work has been featured on Oprah.com, Inc.com, the Huffington Post, US News & World Report, Reuters Money, The Fiscal Times, USA Today, The Cut, Girlboss, Nerd Wallet, The Simple Dollar, REDBOOK Magazine, Experience Life Magazine and Mindful Magazine. Bari is also the author of The Art of Money: A Life-Changing Guide to Financial Happiness, published by Parallax Press.


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