017 | Erotic Intelligence, with Eva Clay

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I noticed several years ago that I had an aversion to pleasure.

Like many women, I had put my sexuality and general ability to welcome things that truly felt good, over “there” in a little box, disconnected from the rest of my life. I knew pleasure was important, but I down played its existence. It was easier that way. It made it so I didn’t have to confront layers of discomfort and shame.


Eventually that caught up to me. That little box over there wasn’t meant to be separate, it was an essential part of me being ALIVE as an embodied woman. I began opening the box and it changed my freaking life. And not just my sex life, every area of my life


Eva Clay is a true embodiment of the power of pleasure, and I knew I had to have her on the podcast. The woman exudes the juiciness of being alive and including it all - and has the science and mastery to back it. She has the uncanny ability to make it all okay, while warmly inviting you into the realms of yum in your life.


If you find yourself on the journey of opening your capacity for pleasure and discovering your innate erotic life, this episode is for you!


In this episode we discussed:

+ Eva’s personal awakening that happened when she lost her own libido after being a clinical sex therapist for years.

+ Her wake up call that later lead her from a sexual revolution to a year of celibacy

+ The integration of scientific clinical sexuality and spiritual tantric sexuality

+ The limitations of the diagnostic problem model for sexuality

+ How your libido can get blocked and frozen

+ How the patriarchal culture affects how we relate to our own sexuality as women

+ What is Erotic Intelligence

+ The neuroscience of pleasure and arousal

+ How to connect to your erotic nature if it feels totally shut down

+ Sex Magic - how to use your erotic life to tap the unconscious for healing and manifestation

+ Working with shame


“In your erotic life, in your sexual life - make nothing wrong and love all of it.”




Insta: @evaclay


About Eva

Eva Clay, MSW, LCSW is an acclaimed sexologist, psychotherapist and professional troublemaker whose mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of soul, sex and science.  She's helped thousands of people unlock their innate potential for pleasure, and as a former professor of neuroscience, she bodaciously reminds us that smart is sexy. Her work is an elegant marriage of the profound and the playful, and she offers sexual intelligence courses and coaching.  When she’s not teaching, you’ll find her making mayhem on a dance floor.




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